Talk to Kids About Winning and Losing

Remember who ran for president and vice president against Ronald Reagan and George H.W. Bush in 1984? Answer: Walter Mondale with Geraldine Ferraro. How quickly we forget those who ran the high-profile race but didn’t make it.

My friend Dr. David Parkyn, president of North Park University in Chicago, invites guests to peruse a hallway gallery in his home, filled with framed campaign buttons going back a half a century of candidates who won their party’s endorsement, but went on to lose the campaign. My visit to his captivating bipartisan collection made me realize how important it is to talk to kids about winning and losing. With this election season coming to a close, it’s an opportune time. Understanding that losing isn’t the end-all is an important life lesson.

Here are five ideas on how to relate with kids about winning, losing and perseverance.

1. Let’s start with the world of sports. In major-league baseball, a .300 batting average is an admirable achievement, but it’s only three hits out of 10 tries. That means that seven out of 10 times, a skilled batter returns to the dugout failing to hit to get on base. But he’s soon back in the batter’s box, striving for a hit.

2. Winning matters to kids. But healthy competition is what needs to be stressed. Being out there, trying with hope for success counts in the long run. Tell kids of the classic defeats of Abraham Lincoln, who lost eight elections for various offices before ultimately winning the presidency.

3. Remind your child that courage does not mean an absence of fear, but rather doing something in spite of fear or discomfort.

4. In our competitive society, home is an important refuge. Whether working or playing together, stress cooperation and fun while downplaying fierce competition.

5. No one wins all the time. Learning to win humbly and lose graciously is an important life skill. Who knows, your child may run for president someday.

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